The Breakup He called the sister to warn her that he was going to dump her sister. He called with this warning because he assumed that she wouldn’t be able to go on without him (literally). That call was not only a really crappy way to breakup, it was a violation and pretty epic display of arrogance. She was really hurt. And then she got mad. That anger motivated one sarcastic & hilarious phone call to the ex (you gotta listen to the audio) which brought a lot of closure. But she still felt pretty broken. During some long talks with her sister, she realized that this breakup could not break her. It was impossible. She had already survived the worst thing when her mom died. Remembering her own strength was was enough to heal her heart.
The Breakthrough During the relationship, she always had the sense that he thought he was better than her. He showed it by spending time with her when it was convenient for him and not being supportive when she needed him. At the time she ignored it, she thought he would come around. But in the end, that little whisper was all she ever really needed to know about that relationship.
That was her gut reminding her- this is not what love feels like.
We think we don’t know instinctively what love feels like. But we really do. We always do. Our instinct always knows, our gut is always reminding us. You know what love feels like. Love feels like reverence and like calm. Like closeness and like space. Like hard work and like effortlessness. And perhaps most importantly, love feels like you actually like the person. What a beautiful reminder. Trust your gut. You know what love feels like.