it's not your job to like me

love note no. 10
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It's not your job to like me, it's mine. 

This quote from the amazing Byron Katie is the best dating advice ever. 

The fear of not being liked is why so many people hate dating. And why so many avoid it altogether. 

I know I postponed or cancelled first dates too many times because the idea of meeting a new guy, being judged, and risking not being liked was just too much. It didn't seem worth it. So much easier and safer to stay home. 

But when I made this my dating mantra, everything changed. In an instant, the drama and pressure of dating literally disappeared. Everything got lighter and lot more fun.